Willow WIFI on Being a Self-Advocate

(a multi-part series)

Hello again.  It’s me, Willow.  Last month we chatted about rewriting your inner monologue in order to overcome self-doubt.  This is an important first step in becoming a self-advocate.  Today’s focus is on when and why to say, “yes”

During the past month while you were rewriting your narrative and being kind to yourself, did you begin to notice positive changes in your confidence level?   Better yet, did anyone else notice positive changes in your confidence level?   

If not, don’t worry.  These things take time.  Think of it like a person who wants to lose weight.  That excess weight didn’t magically appear in a month.  It accumulated over a longer period, and it will take time to get it off again.  Remember to be kind to yourself if a change in self-confidence is not happening for you as fast as you think it should.  For the sake of the timing of this column, let’s assume all of us now have a positive self-image and we’re starting to feel our confidence building. 

Our next step is a bold one.  We are going to start saying, “yes”.  The baby is being pushed out of the nest.  So soon?  Yep.  Because in order to be a self-advocate we cannot sit back and wait for things to happen to us or for us.  A self-advocate makes things happen for – you guessed it.  HERSELF. 

I told you this column is about when and why to say, “yes”.  Assuming your self-confidence is at an all-time high, the “when” is now.  Say, “yes”, every chance you get.  Say, “yes”, to every opportunity that comes along, no matter how big and scary, no matter how small or insignificant.  The time is now.   

“Well, this is irresponsible,” you might be thinking.  Not really.  I’m not advocating jumping out of a perfectly good airplane without a parachute.  Let’s cover risk/reward in depth in a future column.  For now, let me say it another way, if fear or lack of confidence has been holding you back from saying, “yes”, that ends today.  Today is a new beginning.  Start saying, “yes”.

The “why” takes a little more explaining.  Most people do not get what they want by accident.  They calculate what needs to be done, and then execute the necessary steps in order to put themselves in the best position to get what they want. 

It’s not enough to think about what you want.  You can’t just wish it to be so.  No one is going to do the work for you.  You must take action.  You must say, “yes”.

You need a broad range of experiences in order to grow.  You say, “yes”, to get the experience.  You say, “yes”, in order to build a body of work.  You say, “yes” to get what you want, because no one else is going to do it for you.  You say, “yes”, because no one got to the top of a mountain without first working her butt off to get up there.  Go get it, girl.  The time is now.  Say, “yes”.

Until next time,




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